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I would highly not recommend this therapist to counsel your children in post divorce situations. Kalli is my ex-husbands personal therapist; he talked me into taking our kids there throughout our divorce. I was iffy about it, being that she was he’s personal therapist, but I figured most professionals were neutral. Our kids had their each own therapist, that their father was hardly involved in and they would call him and request meetings that he wouldn’t show for. My ex made it sound like he would be getting therapy with the kids, with Kalli to work on their relationship. I was wrong, he was trying to stack a case for court. Kalli told my oldest daughter that I sounded like a toxic parent (I’ve never spoken to her) A professional therapist would never talk to someone’s minor child like that when the said parent isn’t there. I don’t know what my ex-husband said about me, but he likes the tell people I am crazy. (He whom physically and emotionally abused me and the kids, who was a drug and severe alcoholic, whom cheated several times and models poor relationships and values to the kids to this day. He thinks he’s stable because he is sober and lives with a women that he is engaged to(4 months) he was dating her out-of-state while he lived with another women here for over a year. Great man and good example) We are headed back to court to adjust child support and here we go again with the “I am the unfit parent.” 😂 Yeah ok.. Once again I found out Kalli was in my son’s ear this time and he was upset that she was portraying me as a parent that wasn’t good enough for him and he should go live with his father. I feel that her ally lays with the person paying and she didn’t put my kids first and is unprofessional; it’s odd and kind of scary that three other therapist (one whom has been working with our daughter for 10 years and is a doctor) do not agree with her opinions and says that isn’t an effective way to therapy. In the future I will only go to a neutral therapist. Be mindful about what is being said to your children behind closed doors, my child will not be back. I usually do not bother with reviews on people, but this situation is mind-boggling! Btw, my narcissistic ex tells me I am a great mom often. 🤦🏼♀️
We went to Kalli as a "reunification" therapist and instead she retraumatized an almost teenage kid with a long term abusive father. After meeting the kid for only 1 1/2 hours and being told about years of abuse first hand, Kalli then used force and manipulation tactics telling the kid her "meetings were non-negotiable" then forced a meeting with the father. This is against proper procedure for reunification therapy process, the Domestic Abuse Act, and psychologist rules and ethics. When Kalli was presented with that information by a domestic abuse group and the mother, she grew angry and ignored all professional advice. She also had spoken to the kids long time therapist (which she also forbid him to see because "dad didn't like it") and told Kalli the kid was a trauma victim, yet Kalli ignored that therapist too. While she is supposed to be working in the best interest of the kid and transparent with mediations, it was found out she was having secret conversations with one parent and being misled because of her own unprofessional conduct. The domestic abuse group reviewed all the information and what Kalli had been doing and wrote a support letter for the kid stating Kallis inaccuracies. Services were ended with Kalli and a week later she claimed she was "recinding her services" after being fired. Kalli then proceeded to write a letter against the domestic abuse group and mother of the child making false claims knowing she was caught. Keep your documentation and have other therapist and advocates involved besides her to protect yourselves as you'll need it when she is being investigated. Don't trust her alone with your children as she will make them out to be a liar when they speak up about her while she forces her own madness on them in very unhealthy and untheraputic ways.
I'm considering making a formal complaint. I think it's worth connecting with others for our own support group after this! I did not go for reunification therapy. I've been divorced for 10 years at that time. I went to get my daughter help. She was 16. She was struggling with a lot of things and one was that she didn't want to go to her dad's which was difficult on everyone, especially me because at the time I had to travel for work. Instead of my daughter getting the bipolar diagnosis she now has (it took almost 2 years after the mess this woman created). Instead of being diagnosed and medicated (she's doing amazing now!) this woman strong-armed this family through shaming and twisting and treating people with disrespect. I realized what she was doing was reunification therapy without a discussion about shifting the therapy from my daughter's therapist to reunification. She was forcing our daughter to meet with her dad. My 16 year old sent her an email (on her own) saying she was not ready for that and she felt she needed more time working some things out. Kali refused, and insisted it was the only way she could help her. When I asked Kali who her client was she refused to answer. She turned it on me and asked who I thought it was and I responded that it was our daughter. Not the family unit at this time. She sent my ex an email saying I was combative and she wouldn't be able to help and that he should start a court proceeding to pull our 4th grader from her current school and put her in a school in the city closer to her dad (I'm in eagan he's south metro). That I was alienating our kids from him. My god.....I sought her out. I asked for help. I called their dad and step mom and let them know. I NEEDED her to go to her dad's so I could continue to work. Turns out she was starting a therapy group for the "Out Parent". I think it's why she was twisting everything because that was her lens. My 16 year old had been asking for therapy and left upset saying she made her feel belittled. My ex started a court action based on this therapist's private emails with him (they were all included in the paperwork which is how I found out about them) and she wrote a report saying that reunification therapy should be court ordered! In her own paperwork it says she will NOT write a court eval without therapy being established specifically for that purpose. Yet she did. TWO years after we stopped seeing her she wrote a detailed report after only having seen us a handful of times. She had so many details completely wrong. Thank god the judge threw the whole thing out. It was absurd and the judge knew it. When my ex got angry about some very minor issues he used that as ammo. Instead of getting help for my daughter who was suffering and having support I ended up with a court action against me and in debt for it. I feel awful it took so long for her to get help. She found a therapist HERSELF at 18, was referred to psych and started meds ON HER OWN. How sad. It's one of my greatest parenting fails.
I'm sorry you went through that as well. You can file complaints with the board of psychology and the MN Attorney General. Kalli has gone against the ethics and rules she is supposed to follow. Its terrible the charade Kalli put on to is stating she knew how to do reunification therapy with domestic abuse (not just reported but police reports and guilty verdict). She did not follow her own reunification outline process she posts on her website. She is also a business conflict therapist as a "specialty" which is completely different than families and She knows nothing about PTSD and trauma diagnosis treatment. She was sent the proper procedure outlined by specialist and the domestic abuse act and ignored it all. She ignored the current court order, a list of abuse by my kid, his therapist, the advocate, and instead forced a meeting she then lied about claiming it went well, when there were witnesses as to the effect it had on my kid right after the meeting. She knew the kid began having melt downs and triggers from this, she heard it, yet still wanted to continue with no support for the kid that he asked for to feel safe. When the legalities and unprofessionalism were pointed out, even the PC quit to save himself. Kalli will end up with consequences the more people speak up and report her.
I would give zero stars if I could. My sister (13 y/o) was involved in a family reunification process with her abusive father. At every given opportunity, Kalli undermined and negated my sisters feelings, opinions, and stories. Kalli was provided with recordings documenting instances of abuse and still managed to remain obtuse and take the side of the abuser. She is clearly not working in the best interest of children but rather working to serve her own ego in the pursuit of so-called "successful reunifications". My sister told Kalli directly that she did not feel safe or comfortable in participating in an in-person session to which Kalli responded by telling a 13 yer old child that she had no say in the process and would have to follow Kalli's timeline.(Not true and not legal). Kalli was so unsupportive and incompetent that my sister had to get her own lawyer to ensure that her voice was being heard. She is unable to identify patterns and behaviors of abusers to the point that she was manipulated into believing blatant lies of the abuser. Kalli is completely unqualified to work with children or let alone anyone with a beating heart.
If you care about your child's mental health and physical safety, DO NOT use this therapist under any circumstances. Kalli's favorite method of practice is manipulation. She will say anything and everything during sessions to keep you coming back (and paying her), and then straight-up deny statements or claim to have "misspoken" when called out on them. Her top priority is scheduling sessions as often and as quickly as possible, with no regard to your child's physical, mental, or emotional concerns. After one 30-minute session, our daughter came out of her office bawling and refusing to ever speak to her again. She called our daughter a liar, accused us of manipulating her, and told our daughter that her concerns "were not important and not part of therapy." She constantly referenced a court document with our ELEVEN year old, telling her that "she had no choice and had to keep working with her, no matter how she felt". Our daughter cried the entire drive home, telling us that she was belittled, accused of lying, and told that she needed to just say and do what the therapist told her. Kalli insisted on referring to the birth mother as "mom" despite our child telling her how uncomfortable it made her numerous times.
Kalli also told all adults involved manipulative statements that served no purpose but to cause friction and distrust, making successful co-parenting virtually impossible. She would regularly tell one side one thing, and when it was addressed as a group, deny the statements or claim that we "misunderstood" her. She encouraged manipulative, unethical behavior between parents and attempted to pit them against each other. When we asked for billing summaries, it took almost two weeks to receive them, which was very concerning. She was constantly "forgetting" what we had discussed in previous sessions and did not do her research even though we had provided her with detailed files outlining the history of our case. She booked sessions back-to-back and never had "extra time" if we needed to ask questions or clarify things. I could go on and on.
After our awful experience, we did some Googling and found out that she often uses hypnosis-type therapies which is scary when working with children, as this was never discussed with us! We also found her listed on "Kink Awareness Professionals" and after reading her bio, it is clear that she will take on any and every sort of "client" if it means an extra paycheck.
I would highly not recommend this therapist to counsel your children in post divorce situations. Kalli is my ex-husbands personal therapist; he talked me into taking our kids there throughout our divorce. I was iffy about it, being that she was he’s personal therapist, but I figured most professionals were neutral. Our kids had their each own therapist, that their father was hardly involved in and they would call him and request meetings that he wouldn’t show for. My ex made it sound like he would be getting therapy with the kids, with Kalli to work on their relationship. I was wrong, he was trying to stack a case for court. Kalli told my oldest daughter that I sounded like a toxic parent (I’ve never spoken to her) A professional therapist would never talk to someone’s minor child like that when the said parent isn’t there. I don’t know what my ex-husband said about me, but he likes the tell people I am crazy. (He whom physically and emotionally abused me and the kids, who was a drug and severe alcoholic, whom cheated several times and models poor relationships and values to the kids to this day. He thinks he’s stable because he is sober and lives with a women that he is engaged to(4 months) he was dating her out-of-state while he lived with another women here for over a year. Great man and good example)
ReplyDeleteWe are headed back to court to adjust child support and here we go again with the “I am the unfit parent.” 😂 Yeah ok.. Once again I found out Kalli was in my son’s ear this time and he was upset that she was portraying me as a parent that wasn’t good enough for him and he should go live with his father. I feel that her ally lays with the person paying and she didn’t put my kids first and is unprofessional; it’s odd and kind of scary that three other therapist (one whom has been working with our daughter for 10 years and is a doctor) do not agree with her opinions and says that isn’t an effective way to therapy.
In the future I will only go to a neutral therapist.
Be mindful about what is being said to your children behind closed doors, my child will not be back. I usually do not bother with reviews on people, but this situation is mind-boggling! Btw, my narcissistic ex tells me I am a great mom often. 🤦🏼♀️
This is almost exactly my experience with this person. Is there a way to connect offline, Rachael?
ReplyDeleteWe went to Kalli as a "reunification" therapist and instead she retraumatized an almost teenage kid with a long term abusive father. After meeting the kid for only 1 1/2 hours and being told about years of abuse first hand, Kalli then used force and manipulation tactics telling the kid her "meetings were non-negotiable" then forced a meeting with the father. This is against proper procedure for reunification therapy process, the Domestic Abuse Act, and psychologist rules and ethics. When Kalli was presented with that information by a domestic abuse group and the mother, she grew angry and ignored all professional advice. She also had spoken to the kids long time therapist (which she also forbid him to see because "dad didn't like it") and told Kalli the kid was a trauma victim, yet Kalli ignored that therapist too. While she is supposed to be working in the best interest of the kid and transparent with mediations, it was found out she was having secret conversations with one parent and being misled because of her own unprofessional conduct. The domestic abuse group reviewed all the information and what Kalli had been doing and wrote a support letter for the kid stating Kallis inaccuracies. Services were ended with Kalli and a week later she claimed she was "recinding her services" after being fired. Kalli then proceeded to write a letter against the domestic abuse group and mother of the child making false claims knowing she was caught. Keep your documentation and have other therapist and advocates involved besides her to protect yourselves as you'll need it when she is being investigated. Don't trust her alone with your children as she will make them out to be a liar when they speak up about her while she forces her own madness on them in very unhealthy and untheraputic ways.
ReplyDeleteI'm considering making a formal complaint. I think it's worth connecting with others for our own support group after this! I did not go for reunification therapy. I've been divorced for 10 years at that time. I went to get my daughter help. She was 16. She was struggling with a lot of things and one was that she didn't want to go to her dad's which was difficult on everyone, especially me because at the time I had to travel for work. Instead of my daughter getting the bipolar diagnosis she now has (it took almost 2 years after the mess this woman created). Instead of being diagnosed and medicated (she's doing amazing now!) this woman strong-armed this family through shaming and twisting and treating people with disrespect. I realized what she was doing was reunification therapy without a discussion about shifting the therapy from my daughter's therapist to reunification. She was forcing our daughter to meet with her dad. My 16 year old sent her an email (on her own) saying she was not ready for that and she felt she needed more time working some things out. Kali refused, and insisted it was the only way she could help her. When I asked Kali who her client was she refused to answer. She turned it on me and asked who I thought it was and I responded that it was our daughter. Not the family unit at this time. She sent my ex an email saying I was combative and she wouldn't be able to help and that he should start a court proceeding to pull our 4th grader from her current school and put her in a school in the city closer to her dad (I'm in eagan he's south metro). That I was alienating our kids from him. My god.....I sought her out. I asked for help. I called their dad and step mom and let them know. I NEEDED her to go to her dad's so I could continue to work. Turns out she was starting a therapy group for the "Out Parent". I think it's why she was twisting everything because that was her lens. My 16 year old had been asking for therapy and left upset saying she made her feel belittled. My ex started a court action based on this therapist's private emails with him (they were all included in the paperwork which is how I found out about them) and she wrote a report saying that reunification therapy should be court ordered! In her own paperwork it says she will NOT write a court eval without therapy being established specifically for that purpose. Yet she did. TWO years after we stopped seeing her she wrote a detailed report after only having seen us a handful of times. She had so many details completely wrong. Thank god the judge threw the whole thing out. It was absurd and the judge knew it. When my ex got angry about some very minor issues he used that as ammo. Instead of getting help for my daughter who was suffering and having support I ended up with a court action against me and in debt for it. I feel awful it took so long for her to get help. She found a therapist HERSELF at 18, was referred to psych and started meds ON HER OWN. How sad. It's one of my greatest parenting fails.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you went through that as well. You can file complaints with the board of psychology and the MN Attorney General. Kalli has gone against the ethics and rules she is supposed to follow. Its terrible the charade Kalli put on to is stating she knew how to do reunification therapy with domestic abuse (not just reported but police reports and guilty verdict). She did not follow her own reunification outline process she posts on her website. She is also a business conflict therapist as a "specialty" which is completely different than families and She knows nothing about PTSD and trauma diagnosis treatment. She was sent the proper procedure outlined by specialist and the domestic abuse act and ignored it all. She ignored the current court order, a list of abuse by my kid, his therapist, the advocate, and instead forced a meeting she then lied about claiming it went well, when there were witnesses as to the effect it had on my kid right after the meeting. She knew the kid began having melt downs and triggers from this, she heard it, yet still wanted to continue with no support for the kid that he asked for to feel safe. When the legalities and unprofessionalism were pointed out, even the PC quit to save himself. Kalli will end up with consequences the more people speak up and report her.
ReplyDeleteI would give zero stars if I could. My sister (13 y/o) was involved in a family reunification process with her abusive father. At every given opportunity, Kalli undermined and negated my sisters feelings, opinions, and stories. Kalli was provided with recordings documenting instances of abuse and still managed to remain obtuse and take the side of the abuser. She is clearly not working in the best interest of children but rather working to serve her own ego in the pursuit of so-called "successful reunifications". My sister told Kalli directly that she did not feel safe or comfortable in participating in an in-person session to which Kalli responded by telling a 13 yer old child that she had no say in the process and would have to follow Kalli's timeline.(Not true and not legal). Kalli was so unsupportive and incompetent that my sister had to get her own lawyer to ensure that her voice was being heard.
ReplyDeleteShe is unable to identify patterns and behaviors of abusers to the point that she was manipulated into believing blatant lies of the abuser. Kalli is completely unqualified to work with children or let alone anyone with a beating heart.
If you care about your child's mental health and physical safety, DO NOT use this therapist under any circumstances. Kalli's favorite method of practice is manipulation. She will say anything and everything during sessions to keep you coming back (and paying her), and then straight-up deny statements or claim to have "misspoken" when called out on them. Her top priority is scheduling sessions as often and as quickly as possible, with no regard to your child's physical, mental, or emotional concerns. After one 30-minute session, our daughter came out of her office bawling and refusing to ever speak to her again. She called our daughter a liar, accused us of manipulating her, and told our daughter that her concerns "were not important and not part of therapy." She constantly referenced a court document with our ELEVEN year old, telling her that "she had no choice and had to keep working with her, no matter how she felt". Our daughter cried the entire drive home, telling us that she was belittled, accused of lying, and told that she needed to just say and do what the therapist told her. Kalli insisted on referring to the birth mother as "mom" despite our child telling her how uncomfortable it made her numerous times.
ReplyDeleteKalli also told all adults involved manipulative statements that served no purpose but to cause friction and distrust, making successful co-parenting virtually impossible. She would regularly tell one side one thing, and when it was addressed as a group, deny the statements or claim that we "misunderstood" her. She encouraged manipulative, unethical behavior between parents and attempted to pit them against each other. When we asked for billing summaries, it took almost two weeks to receive them, which was very concerning. She was constantly "forgetting" what we had discussed in previous sessions and did not do her research even though we had provided her with detailed files outlining the history of our case. She booked sessions back-to-back and never had "extra time" if we needed to ask questions or clarify things. I could go on and on.
After our awful experience, we did some Googling and found out that she often uses hypnosis-type therapies which is scary when working with children, as this was never discussed with us! We also found her listed on "Kink Awareness Professionals" and after reading her bio, it is clear that she will take on any and every sort of "client" if it means an extra paycheck.